Online dating sites often boast about their success in connecting people and helping them build relationships.  This claim could actually be true, since 120,000 marriages every year happen because of online dating, according to Online Dating Magazine (2007).   But not everyone is successful in online dating. There are some users who do not get any response months after posting their profiles online.  So, what are the secrets of these 120,000 happy couples?

There are many secrets to make yourself noticeable and make your profile stand out in online dating sites. The most important is the opening line or headline.  Whenever people are flipping through profiles and searching for matches the first thing they notice (often the only thing they notice) is the picture and the headline.

Proper profile writing would even boost the number of people that will find your profile.  Your profile should be written creatively without fabricating any kind of information. For example, if you are an outdoorsy person, you do not simply say that right away, you let them know how great you are in the outdoors and why you love it so much. Tell something about the most memorable outdoor event you have done and include a picture of that as well. Mentioning some specific well-known places might also help people find your profile.

Avoid negativity when writing your profile.  Be positive, but don’t sound too overconfident or perfect.  Crazy as it sounds, nobody wants to connect with somebody who is too perfect.  Some say that this looks like a sign of a scam or fraud, while others say that they are shy to contact “perfect” people. Use humor or tell a funny story about yourself. Don’t have only profile pictures where you are dressed to the nines, but also have some casual pictures that show a more natural look & make you look more approachable.

Perhaps you might even find some motivation when you write your profile to make some personal changes. Having to write some truths about yourself may inspire you to quit smoking, get in shape, take up some outdoor activities, or make other changes in your life that would make you more desirable and compatible.

If you have sent a message to someone and the person does not reply, be patient. It’s possible that he or she has received lot of messages and is taking a while to answer them all, they have not checked their messages, or even may no longer be using the service.

Actually, you should send messages to several people at once. Typically, you would get one reply out of five messages sent. Do not take a non-reply personally as they do not even know you. Besides, if they are not polite enough to respond to your message then they are not someone you would want to be with anyway.

When communicating, avoid talking about personal issues like health problems, family issues and financial problems. If the relationship progress past phone call and emails to actual dating, it will be your choice when to share your more personal information.